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It’s officially been one month since moving in with my boyfriend, and things have been really good!
We’re still together, so that’s always a good sign lol. Moving in with your boyfriend is always a big moment in your life. If you’re unsure about taking the plunge or have just decided to take the leap, here’s what you can expect after moving in with your boyfriend – one month in.
What to Expect When Moving in With Your Boyfriend After One Month:
You and your boyfriend do things differently.
You’re two different people. You’re gonna do things differently. This can range from how early you go to bed to where you put an open bottle of maple syrup (to refrigerate or not to refrigerate?).
It’s pretty normal to be frustrated about little quirky things that he does, just don’t let that bother you for too long. Ask yourself, will this matter in 5 minutes? 5 years?
For example, my boyfriend is tall and I am…not. He places the tuber ware really high up, so we found a compromise and it’s placed in a much better spot where I can actually reach it! That’s what it’s all about fam.
You’re gonna fight.
Hate to break it to ya but it’s inevitable. Travis and I had our first big argument, and it was about where to go when the lease is up. I’m doing a crazy long commute and want to be closer to my internship, while he just started a business and needs to be close to his partners during the new beginning stages.
It’s a tough situation since we both want each other to be happy, but we also want to be selfish about where to go (everyone is always a little bit selfish).
Moral of the story, we were both pretty mad at each other (for other little things as well- I asked him to get a new garbage can and he didn’t so I was p/o I DIGRESS), but we got over it. We care about each other and about our relationship and we know that little things such as a garbage can or big things like moving can weigh heavily on relationships.
Gently talking things out (no yelling), and seeing each other’s perspective can truly make a huge difference in an argument.
You won’t be seeing each other as much as you think.
I wake up at 5:15 to get to my 6 o’clock train. Travis wakes up at (???). When I get home from work in the evenings he’s usually still out working. Our schedules are pretty different, so those times working, shopping, (maybe) exercising add up, and you won’t be in each other’s faces 24/7.
To be honest, I was super scared that we were going to get overwhelmed with each other, but because our schedules are different, we really only see each other in the evenings and the weekends (which is enough for me, considering my previous 5-year long-distance-relationship).
Make sure you do set some time for one-on-one though! Dating shouldn’t stop because of cohabitation.
Not Everything is Beautiful.
Let’s be honest with ourselves here– when live alone or are alone, we are slops magops.
I don’t know about you ladies, but you’ll find me pantless or naked, sitting with my legs wide open, and usually looking like an absolute shithead. If you were to tell me you always try and look presentable for yo man, you are 100% lying to BOTH OF US.
We’re kinda gross, and when you live with your significant other, you can be perfectly beautiful all the time.
So yeah, your leg hair is gonna grow back. There’s no point in even attempting to shaving it every day. That goes for the rest of your body hair (I’m talking about u pubes).
Don’t stress about the upkeep because it’s much harder when you live together. Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t put in a little effort every now and them. That goes both ways for @ men.
You’ll Have a Better Understanding if They’re “The One.”
Every day I get to spend with Travis, I consider him more and more my home (extra cheesy but IDC). I was super scared to move across the country and be away from my family, but finally living with my boyfriend and “starting” my relationship was definitely the next step I needed to take.
Moving in with your boyfriend is kinda terrifying, but if it’s meant to work out it will. Have faith, my friends!
As for the next steps? Convince him to get a puppy!
Have you taken the leap and moved in with your manz? What has it been like for you? Share your advice in the comments below.